Showhappy collapse!

Oh really! My diary is back into function, so good. I have been quite abnormal these days. But I just don't know what it is about. Easily tired, fell thousand times on the floor, not even studying, addicted to facebook, and being naively into one of the promise again. Promises should never be made easily, and never be trusted. One reason I got addicted to facebook maybe because of all the personal tests and predictions. About how your friends and others think of you, about what kind of person you are, about when will you be in the future. Cognitive disclosure. This is a strong motivation for everyone of us I guess. The more I study about psychology, the more I found it intriguing and inspiring. Not only you can be more aware of the causes of your behavior, you can also guess others behavior. Not only can you reflect on yourself and change, you can make use of same tools to change other's behavior. I really admire the people who can write out a theory of themselves which is used by others to understand things. No matter how the theories are right or wrong, it is still honorable. Because it was so hard to break away from your normal mental model and start to look at things at a different perspective. I wish I can develop my own theory on something. But it is so hard to find a starting point from so many things you can develop a theory from and question. We have limited cognitive power to process information. Gosh, I really did learn psychology well, now that I am able to put back all I learn here. Anyways, my test..well so far so good. Transformational leadership, path goal, stereotyping. Now that I know why we use stereotype to judge due to the social learning theory: categorization, homogenization, and differentiation. An unconscious process. And this comfort me a little bit about my discontentment toward those stupid people, and about me feeling bad myself. But of course I will still need to change myself. There is no good or bad people, as I probably mentioned before. It is all due to background. And also, I discovered, it is also due to situational factors and social norms. And maybe the GOLDEN MEAN is what I am thinking about. There are just some basic elements or characteristics in human being. They are innate, inborn. But different situation, different intensity makes a difference. Different characteristics can be used to the best if you can reflect and change a perspective. Jealous or envy? Selfish or self love? generous or luxurious? hardworking or stressed? carefree or lost? outgoing or egocentric? There will be something bad out of the good, something good out of the bad. Then I think about leadership. Management is what I what to do because of the power to influence. And after I took statistics, I understand how big a difference management can make. Help people keep their job, help save the world. But something new is not easy to introduce at all. How can I persuade. Then I think of religion. Why Paul have such a power to persuade? Why Christianity spread so quickly? Then I think of some ways:
1. Based on not your own authority to persuade, but some non refutable sources of power like god and nature. Because then people cannot think of a reason to object.
2. Care about not yourself but the good of all. Bring good and happiness to all. Create and emphasize on that image.
3. Step by step logically. Support by evidence. Predict some of the questions or objections people have and actively dispute them. Authority and confidence.
4. Unite people by common interest. How to make them willing to support you as a group. A crowd of people. Justice. Fair.
5. Commitment and action from yourself and think of ways to make people committed.
Anyways, I learned about something very interesting in statistics again. After the tips on the stock selling and buying.
The regression effect. The problem of our intuition. And that is interesting to me because I finally understand what the form 6 mean by what we learn in economics is wrong. They are wrong like everything else. We assume things based on what we think are right. But it is not.
Let me ask you, there are 2 hospitals one with 50 babies and the other 100000 babies. The probability of having a girl and boy is the same 50%. So which hospital is more likely to have a bigger difference of boys and girls? I used to think it is the smaller one, and if you learn probability in my high school and learn it exactly as how the teachers teach it, you will answer the hospital with 50 babies. Because you will think that the probability of getting boys and girls will become closer to each other to 50% if there is a larger number of babies. Because if only given 10 chances, you can have 2 boys and 8 girls (due to chance). But you will think for a larger number 1000, it will be closer to 500 boys and 500 girls. Ya. That's what make sense to our common sense, and common sense is wrong. We think it is the smaller one because we confused what probability means with the actual occurrence of an event. Probability is a chance, not the end result you see. Yes the chance is 50/50, but not the number of babies. There is natural variation in the world. And variations are calculated by n* the probability of the event P(b) and P(g). n is how many times you allow the event to happen, the number of data. (here it is the number of babies) When n increase, the variation will just keep increasing. Although the probability is the same or close.

聖誕大餐

Xmas Menu
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聖誕西蘭花沙拉
Christmas Tree Salad

忌廉西蘭花蘑菇湯拌蒜茸多士
Cream of Broccoli and Mushroom Soup Served with Garlic Toast

香草焗薯角
Baked Potato Wedges with Herbs

烤傳統德式肉腸
Grilled Bratwurst

烤肉眼扒配黑椒汁拌意大利麵
Grilled Beef Ribeye Steak in Black Pepper Sauce with Spaghetti

車厘撻 / 豆腐芝士蛋糕
Cherry Tart / Tofu Cheese Cake

青檸梳打 / 薑啤
Lemon Lime & Bitters / Ginger Beer

被陳生發現我在廚房玩層層疊，那個自創沙拉搞了好鬼耐，險些就塌樓耶!








Siukwan's Soup of the Day，小軍是日例湯，忌廉西蘭花蘑菇湯。









餐湯跟多士，是缺一不可的拍擋，喝餐湯拌著蒜茸多士是特別好喝的!








不用購買超市裡現成急凍的薯角回來，其實很容易做，又很容易做得好吃!









吃得多廚C牌雞肉腸，就要試一下德國有名的烤肉腸，真的很美味哦!(還在流口水中~)







還有，不可或缺的甜品耶!這是陳生的車厘撻，口感很豐富的，上面鋪滿甜CC的車厘子，隱藏在中間的是軟綿綿的忌廉，最下層的是脆脆的曲奇餅撻皮，請張開你的嘴巴，要大啖大啖享受哦!





我最喜歡吃cheese cake，當芝士crossover豆腐，都一樣ichiban!







這個澳洲牌子的飲品很讚(Diet除外)!兩樽都是alcohol free的，有陳生喜歡喝的青檸梳打，酸酸地又甜甜地，很開胃，CHEERS!!!








我喜歡喝ginger beer，但標明是沒有任何酒精成份的，好飲就得啦!CHEERS!!!

*Discover More!*

At the PEAK?!

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=7976248671
too cute!

月已明，花最發，事悠悠，無不合...really? I hope so. Anyways, it's out of my control afterall.

避免成為「老姑婆」的 8 項指引?!

避免成為「老姑婆」的 8 項指引

從前愛嘲笑嫁不出的女人為「老姑婆」，實在有點抵死兼缺德！今時今日，雖然已有不少單身女性視婚姻為非必然之選擇；但若是緣分真的向你招手，好應該小心慎行，免得犯下原可避免之錯誤，斷送大好姻緣。

1. 經常只跟好姊妹聚會 - we should probably cancel our group...

很多女性不知道亦不相信，其實當你跟一堆女孩子聚在一起的時候，往往會營造出一種氣氛︰滿足愉悅又快樂。但當你們正完全陶醉於嬉哈玩樂之際，遠處想結識你的男孩卻可能不好意思打擾，更認定你實在十分享受單身的樂趣，根本沒空跟男孩子約會。

2. 前度男友「午夜回魂」

有些女性常常以為自己的另一半很大方，不會介意自己一而再再而三地在他面前提及前度男友。事實上，你這樣的舉動只會令你的另一半誤會你對前度男友仍未忘情；或者，是你跟他仍有密切的來往。男人跟女人其實同樣愛呷醋，只是他們一般比較懂得掩飾而已。

3. 跟第一次約會的對象上床

面對現實吧！即使是廿二世紀來臨，男人仍然會覺得第一次跟他約會就願意和他上床的女人是蕩婦。他可能覺得你很吸引、很可愛、很誘人 — 但他卻不會考慮和你有更深入和長久的發展。

4. 在他的朋友面前奚落他

男人都是愛面子的動物，任憑他做了甚麼不該的事，又或者如何惹惱了你，除非你不打算和他繼續走下去，否則你一定要學會「忍」字訣，千萬別在他的朋友面前數落他的不是。即使是笑笑口地說也不可以，因為這只會加強「嘲笑他」的印象！

5. 臭脾氣

不肯妥協又只會大發脾氣的女人令男人望而生畏。最初，你的男人可能仍然會忍受你的任性和野蠻行徑，但久而久之，當熱情慢慢褪減之際，他一定會作出還擊。不少情況是男方一直壓抑對女方的憤惱，直至某天他終於決定一去不返的時候，女方才後悔不已。

6. 在他面前狠批他的友人

男人跟男人的友情，女人很多時根本沒有插手的餘地。「為甚麼他總愛照顧那個看似只會帶麻煩給他的朋友？」「那個一事無成的男人究竟跟他有何共通話題？」…… 記著，任憑你怎樣不喜歡他的朋友，也千萬不要讓他知道，搞不好，他是那派奉行「兄弟如手足、女人如衣服」的男人，最終吃虧的就是你啊！

7. 成為「說三道四長舌婦」- -_- so hard to not be ah!! right, char?

生活逼人，大家每天都可能面對不少叫人氣憤的事情；而每天接觸最多的工作場所就更易產生人際間的磨擦。但記住，約會的原意就是二人能夠放鬆心情，好好地享受浪漫時刻，誰想聽對方喋喋不休地說三道四？加上，你說的人又跟他毫不相干，這只會令他覺得你既不友善又不可愛呢。

8. 天生工作狂 - hmm mind this jenn!

太過於寄情工作的「女強人」也是令男人望而卻步的族類。男人都是自私的；一方面他渴望女人能夠獨立自強，但另一方面，他亦希望你和他獨處的時候能夠適當地「小鳥依人」。雖然這樣有點「精神分裂」，但想深一層，有哪個男人想跟和自己同樣強悍（甚至是更強）的「男人婆」約會呢？所以，工作時工作，約會時就應把你的身分暫時放下，就算你是公司的 CEO，在你的男人面前，你只需做回一個溫柔的女人便可

EQUALITY BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN>>is there? I think so.
Some of my fran said before there cannot be balance or equality between man and woman because they are physically different..
But equality is about respect and tolerant..not only woman respect and scared of man now..
But man also will respect woman..
So I think these 8 items are also for man right?
I mean who will like a bf that do these 8 things..no one. We are equal and we need to follow some rules to make the other one happy
Man need to work for money
Woman need to take care child
Man need face..woman need to
But only in different form in different situation

The other ME

Another ME? PSY 260 (organizational behavior)

Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging(Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)

The Protector
As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.
INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.
INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.
INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.
But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.
Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.
INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.
In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.
The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.

Jungian functional preference ordering:
Dominant: Introverted Intuition
Auxilliary: Extraverted Feeling
Tertiary: Introverted Thinking
Inferior: Extraverted Sensing


INFJ Relationships

INFJs are warm and affirming people who are usually also deep and complex. They're likely to seek out and promote relationships that are intense and meaningful. They tend to be perfectionists, and are always striving for the Ultimate Relationship. For the most part, this is a positive feature, but sometimes works against the INFJ if they fall into the habit of moving from relationship to relationship, always in search of a more perfect partner. In general, the INFJ is a deeply warm and caring person who is highly invested in the health of their close relationships, and puts forth a lot of effort to make them positive. They are valued by those close to them for these special qualities. They seek long-term, lifelong relationships, although they don't always find them.

INFJ Strengths

•Warm and affirming by nature
•Dedicated to achieving the ultimate relationship
•Sensitive and concerned for others' feelings
•Usually have good communication skills, especially written
•Take their commitments very seriously, and seek lifelong relationships
•Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
•Good listeners
•Are able to move on after a relationship has ended (once they're sure it's over)

INFJ Weaknesses

•Tendency to hold back part of themselves
•Not good with money or practical day-to-day life necessities
•Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism
•Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
•Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship


INFJs as Lovers

"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May
INFJs are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back from their mates.
They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may feel put upon by the INFJs demanding perfectionism. However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere commitment to the relationship, and a depth of caring which is not usually present in other types.
Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangible way.
Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFJ's natural partner is the ENTP, or the ENFP. INFJ's dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best matched with a personality type that is dominated by Extraverted Intuition. How did we arrive at this?


INFJs as Parents

"You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth...
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable." -- Kahlil Gibran
INFJs usually make warm and caring parents. Their goal is to help their children become adults who know the difference between right and wrong, and who are independent, growth-oriented individuals.
Along the path to that goal they are generally very warm and caring, and are likely to treat their children as individuals who have a voice in family decisions. They want their children to be able to think for themselves, and make the right decisions. They also can be quite demanding on their children, and may have very high expectations for their behavior. Although they are generally soft-spoken and gentle, they may become stubborn and sharp-tongued at times when their expectations aren't met, or when under a lot of stress.
INFJs take their parenting role with ultimate seriousness. They will make sacrifices for the sake of their children without a second thought, and without remorse. Passing on their values to their children is a serious priority in their lives. Children of INFJs remember their parents fondly as warm, patient, and inspirational.


INFJs as Friends

Although the INFJ is likely to put friends behind their God and their families in terms of importance, they do value their friendships. As idealists who have strong value systems, INFJs seek authenticity and depth in their close relationships, and especially value people who can see and appreciate the INFJ for who they are and what they stand for.
The INFJ is likely to spend a lot of time socialing with family members. If they are religious, they probably are social with members of their religious community. After that, the INFJ may have friends represented from any of the personality types. They are usually extremely intuitive individuals, who will have no patience for anyone they feel is dishonest or corrupt. They'll have no interest in being around these kinds of people.
All kinds of people are drawn towards the INFJ. They are usually quite popular, although they may be unaware of it themselves, because they don't place a lot of importance on it.
The INFJ is valued by their close friends for their warmth and consideration, their new and interesting ways of looking at things, and for their ability to inspire and motivate others to be the best that they can be. genuine article that they are.


Careers for INFJ Personality Types

Whether you're a young adult trying to find your place in the world, or a not-so-young adult trying to find out if you're moving along the right path, it's important to understand yourself and the personality traits which will impact your likeliness to succeed or fail at various careers. It's equally important to understand what is really important to you. When armed with an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and an awareness of what you truly value, you are in an excellent position to pick a career which you will find rewarding.
INFJs generally have the following traits:
•Intuitively understand people and situations
•Idealistic
•Highly principled
•Complex and deep
•Natural leaders
•Sensitive and compassionate towards people
•Service-oriented
•Future-oriented
•Value deep, authentic relationships
•Reserved about expressing their true selves
•Dislike dealing with details unless they enhance or promote their vision
•Constantly seeking meaning and purpose in everything
•Creative and visionary
•Intense and tightly-wound
•Can work logically and rationally - use their intuition to understand the goal and work backwards towards it

The INFJ is a special individual who needs more out of a career than a job. They need to feel as if everything they do in their lives is in sync with their strong value systems - with what they believe to be right. Accordingly, the INFJ should choose a career in which they're able to live their daily lives in accordance with their deeply-held principles, and which supports them in their life quest to be doing something meaningful. Since INFJs have such strong value systems, and persistent intuitive visions which lend them a sense of "knowing", they do best in positions in which they are leaders, rather than followers. Although they can happily follow individuals who are leading in a direction which the INFJ fully supports, they will very unhappy following in any other situation.
The following list of professions is built on our impressions of careers which would be especially suitable for an INFJ. It is meant to be a starting place, rather than an exhaustive list. There are no guarantees that any or all of the careers listed here would be appropriate for you, or that your best career match is among those listed.

Possible Career Paths for the INFJ:
•Clergy / Religious Work
•Teachers
•Medical Doctors / Dentists
•Alternative Health Care Practitioners, i.e. Chiropractor, Reflexologist
•Psychologists
•Psychiatrists
•Counselors and Social Workers
•Musicians and Artists
•Photographers
•Child Care / Early Childhood Development


INFJ Personal Growth

What does Success mean to an INFJ?
People with the INFJ personality type are intense and perfectionistic. They have deep insights into many aspects of life, and usually have very high standards for their own understanding and accomplishments, as well as those of others. They are service-oriented and empathetic to other individuals. The INFJ strives for the ideal in every aspect of their life. An INFJ's feeling of success is centered around their own level of understanding and accomplishment, their usefulness or service to others, and the condition of their personal relationships. The INFJ feels successful when they haved used their very deep understanding of something to do a real service for someone. We often see INFJ personality types as counsellors and teachers, or in the medical and health fields.
Allowing Your INFJ Strengths to Flourish
As an INFJ, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren't natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role.
Nearly all INFJs will recognize the following characteristics in themselves. They should embrace and nourish these strengths:
•They're extremely insightful, and see things that are not obvious to others. This ability to see patterns and meanings in the world can help the INFJ in many different ways. INFJs usually have a great deal of insight into different people and situations.
•When given a goal or context, an INFJ is able to generate all kinds of possibilities. They're able to see the problem from many different angles.
•They understand how others are feeling, and are genuinely concerned with others. This natural empathy and caring helps to be really effective at helping others through problems. In this manner, they make great friends, counselors, teachers, and mates.
•An INFJ has a "stick to it" attitude. They're not afraid of hard work, and will put forth a great deal of effort towards something that they believe in. This persistence will help the INFJ to achieve an identified goal.
•Perfectionistic and idealistic, they always strive for the best.
•Usually intelligent and able to concentrate and focus, the INFJ can usually grasp difficult ideas and concepts.
INFJs who have a well-developed Extraverted Feeling function to complement their dominant Introverted iNtuition will enjoy these very special gifts:
•They can turn their insightful understanding about a situation into a successful plan of action.
•The INFJ with well-developed judgment will be able to grasp and process concepts that are beyond what their natural intelligence appears to be able to handle.
•They may achieve a level of understanding that makes them appear wise.
•The INFJ's perfectionism and idealism, when combined with their empathy and genuine concern for others, can cause them to be true servants for people in some fashion. They may be great doctors or ministers or counselors. If they have also achieved a good amount of life wisdom, they can become powerful forces, such as Jesus (INFJ) and Mahatma Ghandi (INFJ).
Potential Problem Areas
With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no "good". Without "difficult", there would be no "easy". We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type's potential problem areas.
INFJs are rare and intelligent people with many special gifts. This should be kept in mind as you read some of the more negative material about INFJ weaknesses. Remember that these weaknesses are natural. We offer this information to enact positive change, rather than as blatant criticism. We want you to grow into your full potential, and be the happiest and most successful person that you can become.
Most of the weaker characteristics that are found in INFJs are due to their dominant function (Introverted iNtuition) overtaking their personality to the point that the other forces in their personality exist merely to serve the purposes of Introverted iNtuition. In such cases, an INFJ may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degrees:
•May be unaware (and sometimes uncaring) of how they come across to others
•May quickly dismiss input from others without really considering it
•May apply their judgment more often towards others, rather than towards themselves
•With their ability to see an issue from many sides, they may always find others at fault for any problems in their lives
•May have unrealistic and/or unreasonable expectations of others
•May be intolerant of weaknesses in others
•May believe that they're always right
•May be obsessive and passionate about details that may be unimportant to the big picture
•May be cuttingly derisive and sarcastic towards others
•May have an intense and quick temper
•May be tense, wound up, have high blood pressure and find it difficult to relax
•May hold grudges, and have difficulty forgiving people
•May be wishy-washy and unsure how to act in situations that require quick decision making
•May have difficulty communicating their thoughts and feelings to others
•May see so many tangents everywhere that they can't stay focused on the bottom line or the big picture
Explanation of Problems
Most of the problems described above are a result of Introverted iNtuition overtaking the INFJ's personality to the point that all of the other functions become slaves to Introverted iNtuition. A healthy personality needs to have a good balance between its dominant and auxiliary functions. For an INFJ, the dominant Introverted iNtuition needs to be well-supported by the auxiliary Extraverted Feeling function. If Extraverted Feeling exists only to support the desires of Introverted iNtuition, then neither function is being used to its potential.
Introverted iNtuition is a personality function that constantly gathers information, and sees everything from many different perspectives. As the dominant player in a personality, it has the effect of constantly bombarding the psyche with new information to consider. Introverted iNtuition is sort of like a framework for understanding that exists in the mind. As something is perceived, it is melded into the existing intuitive framework. If an entirely new piece of information is perceived by the Introverted iNtuitive, that person must redefine their entire framework of reference. So, Introverted iNtuitives are constantly taking in information about the world that needs to be processed in a relatively lengthy manner in order to be understood. That presents quite a challenge to the INFJ. It's not unusual for an INFJ to feel overwhelmed with all of the things that he or she needs to consider in order to fully understand an idea or situation.
When Introverted iNtuition dominates the INFJ such that the other functions cannot serve their own purposes, we find the INFJ cutting off information that it needs to consider. If the psyche is presented with information that looks anything like something that Introverted iNtuition has processed in the past, it uses Extraverted Feeling to quickly reject that information. The psyche uses Extraverted Feeling to reject the ideas, rather than taking the information into its intuitive framework, and therefore potentially causing that framework to be reshaped and redefined.
Using Extraverted Feeling in this manner may effectively serve the immediate needs of Introverted iNtuition, but it is not ideal. It causes the INFJ to not consider information that may be useful or criticial in developing a real understanding of an issue. It may cause the INFJ to come off as too strongly opinionated or snobbish to others.
The better use of Extraverted Feeling for an INFJ would be to use it to assess the INFJ's rich insights and weigh them against the external world. When the INFJ personality uses Extraverted Feeling to cut off incoming information, rather than to judge internal intuitions, it is effectively cheating itself. It's like getting the answers to a test without having to really understand the questions. It's easier to get the answer right away, rather than to have to figure everything out. For the INFJ, who has a tremendous amount of information and "studying" that needs to be done, it's very tempting to take shortcuts. Most INFJs will do this to some extent. The real problems occur when an INFJ personality has become so imbalanced that its owner is extremely self-important and rarely consider anyone else's opinions or ideas.

Solutions

To grow as an individual, the INFJ needs to focus on applying their judgment to things only after they have gone through their intuition. In other words, the INFJ needs to consciously try not to use their judgment to dismiss ideas prematurely. Rather, they should use their judgment against their own ideas. One cannot effectively judge something that they don't understand. The INFJ needs to take things entirely into their intuition in order to understand them. It may be neccesary to give your intuition enough time to work through the new information so that it can rebuild its global framework of understanding. INFJs need to focus on using their judgment not to dismiss ideas, but rather to support their intuitive framework.
An INFJ who is concerned with personal growth will pay close attention to the subject of their judgments, and their motivation for making judgments. Are they judging something external to themself, or are they judging something that they have sifted through their intuition? Is the motivation for judging something to be able to understand its usefulness in the world, or to dismiss it? Too often, an INFJ will judge something without properly understanding it, and with the intention of dismissing it. Seek first to understand, then to judge.
Living Happily in our World as an INFJ
Some INFJs have difficulty fitting into our society. Their problems are generally associated with not knowing (or caring) how they come across to others, and with having unreasonable expectations for others' behaviors. Both of these issues stem from using Extraverted Feeling primarily to dismiss external ideas, rather than to sort through their own intuitions.
An INFJ who uses Extraverted Feeling in this diminished manner may become so strongly opinionated that they form rigid and unreasonable expectations for others. They may feel so strongly about things that they become very passionate and agitated when they feel that something has gone wrong. In these cases, it's not uncommon for the INFJ to express their displeasure with biting sarcasm. They become so emotionally upset that they are generally not aware of how their behavior comes across to others. Even if the consequences of their attitude and behavior is pointed out to them, they may be agitated to the point that they don't care. This kind of situation can be devastating to the INFJ on many levels, and should be avoided. There isn't much that can be done once the INFJ has reached the point where they are too upset to care about others, but the INFJ can prevent this problem from occuring by ensuring that they never get to that point.
How can you, as an INFJ, ensure that you won't get that upset? It probably seems to you that these kinds of upsets are caused by external circumstances and situations. Well, that's not really true. It's true that things will happen over which you have no control. But you certainly have control over how you perceive these things, or more appropriately, how you *judge* these things.
Specific suggestions:
•Take care to listen to someone's idea entirely before you pass judgment on it. Ask questions if neccesary. Do whatever it takes to make sure that you understand the idea. Try not to begin judging anything about the idea until you have understood it entirely.
•Before you begin talking to another person, pause for a moment and look at that person. Take in that person's attitude and feelings at that moment. Be aware of the person with whom you're speaking.
•If you become upset, walk away immediately. DO NOT express anger. When you get angry, you lose. After you have calmed down, apologize for leaving and continue with what you were doing.
•Try to identify the personality type of everyone that you encounter frequently in your life. Remember that people with the Sensing preference need to be communicated with in a direct, concise manner. Speak plainly and simply with Sensors, giving "yes" or "no" answers.
•Try to be on good terms with all people, even those that you consider beneath you. Try to understand that everybody has something to offer.


Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFJ Success

1.Feed Your Strengths! Do things that allow your brilliant intuition and service-oriented manner to flourish.
2.Face Your Weaknesses! See your weaknesses for what they are, and seek to overcome them. Especially, strive to use your judgment against your internal ideas and intuitions, rather than as a means of disregarding other people's ideas.
3.Talk Through Your Thoughts. You need to step through your intuitions in order to put them into perspective. Give yourself time to do this, and take advantage of discussing ideas with others. You'll find externalizing your internal intuitions to be a valuable exercise.
4.Take in Everything. Don't dismiss ideas prematurely because you don't respect the person generating the ideas, or because you think you already know it all. After all, everybody has something to offer, and nobody knows everything. Steven Covey says it so well when he says: "Seek first to understand, and then to be understood."
5.When You Get Angry, You Lose. Your passion and intensity are strong assets, but can be very harmful if you allow yourself to fall into the "Anger Trap". Remember that Anger is destructive to your personal relationships. Work through your anger before you impress it upon others, or you will likely find yourself alone. Disagreements and disappointments can only be handled effectively in a non-personal and dispassionate manner.
6.Keep Your Eye on the Big Picture Watch out for your tendency to become obsessed with details. If you find yourself feeling very, very strongly about a small detail, take a big step back and make sure that you can still see the goal. You're not going to get there if you get mired in the details.
7.Be Accountable for Yourself. Don't blame the problems in your life on other people. Look inwardly for solutions. No one has more control over your life than you have.
8.Be Humble. Judge yourself at least as harshly as you judge others.
9.Assume the Best. Don't distress yourself and others by dwelling on the dark side of everything. Just as there is a positive charge for every negative charge, there is a light side to every dark side. Remember that positive situations are created by positive attitudes. Expect the best, and the best will come forward.
10.Relax! Do yourself a favor and learn how to effectively unwind. Get exercise and restful sleep. Take vacations. Engage in relaxing activities. Take care of yourself and your loved ones by learning to let go of your passion and intensity for a respite.

Who am I?

Do I care more about efficiency than quality when doing my work? Yes
Do I always think about nonsense,,,and talk about them too? Yes
Do I always cry about something that is silly and not important? I think so
Am I a strange person? Definitely

Who am I?
Behavior is based on rational facts and emotion
I know that there are no bad guys in the world because every person’s behavior or personality is due to how they grow up. They cannot change the facts how they were brought up, what they are like in childhood period.
So, if I am going to have my own precious baby in the future, there will be a great responsibility. I will teach him~to the best of my ability
Sometimes it will be a burden though..good things turn into burden when you have an inappropriate mind...

The world is deteriorating generation after generation
Where are the ethical codes and traditions? Gone?
Who am I to judge?

只不過偶爾受了正驚，才遺忘本性。

Obesseion with copying

A TYPICAL SCHOOLMATE OF MINE: INGRAINED BEHAVIOR?
-Quoted-
Let me tell you something
I am NOT going to give up my future I am NOT that stupid to ruin my life like this I can do it If they can do it, why can't I I am going through it I need to and I will Just watch out one day I gonna be this person and do what I want to I dare to dream nothing is going to stop me and I swear if I didnt end up the way I aspire I am not "XXXXXXLLER".

THE CUTE SIDE OF HER: ALSO A GENIUS LITERATURE WRITER! ROCKKKK
R.I.P. Darcy
Darcy, husband of Lizzie passed away
on the fifteenth day of January
in the year of Two Thousand and Eight.
He died of toothache.

Darcy was stupid, selfish, never share his food with the others
He was violent and never recognize me.
He bit his sons and bit me more than once.
He was feeble and timid, not manly at all
He had countless faults indeed.
But he was such a great lover, he loved Lizzie and only Lizzie throughout his life
He protects her (bit me when I was trying to play with his pregnant wife)
He only had babies with Lizzie.
Last night instead of sleeping side by side Lizzie was giving him warmth...
This morning he died.
I didn't even have the chance to play him a requiem.

I was trying to write Darcy an obituary or a poem... but this, apparently, isn't one. anyway, Lizzie now moved into Donald's place but she's still crying over his lover's death..
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TYPICAL FAMILY: COMPOSED OR??
-Quoted-
月半彎　倚於深宵　晚風輕飄
一張俏臉泛著半點的醉意
夜已醉了　夜已醉倒了
讓它安靜到天曉

我記得　與妳一起　我心高飛
會急促跳動說真需要妳
讓我看妳　讓我細賞妳
陪妳身邊　今晚

讓我靠著妳的臂胳
流露我熱愛心底說話
孕育美麗溫馨愛意
造夢　都是妳

夜已深　我心思思　妳的豐姿
只想妳便是　我的天使
未見半秒　便控制上了
難以心安　於今晚

讓我靠著妳的臂胳
流露我熱愛心底說話
孕育美麗溫馨愛意
造夢　都是妳

讓我靠著妳的臂胳
流露我熱愛心底說話
孕育美麗溫馨愛意
造夢　都是妳

OMG, don't tell me you composed it man! if you did, then..u beat me XDDD

Another one...

If you are smart,,tell me why in only 2 years I need to write so many complaint letters, make so many complaining phone calls? Because..Americans are stupid

Dear UM,

I am sorry for giving you so much trouble today. But I hope you understand how frustrating and important this is to me. I am planning to apply the business school and am mostly done with the preparation work. It is however crucial that I fulfill the first year writing requirement to be qualified to apply the business school.

I am taking 5 courses now: English, Psychology, Statistics, New Testament and Ecology Issue. I was confident that I could be able to drop English at first, and I am only taking it for safety reasons as I absolutely need it to apply business school. I know that I have been very troublesome trying to push you to make decisions quickly but I am really stretching myself too hard with 5 courses. I am overwhelmed and don’t know what I should do before I heard any decisions from you.

I urge you to read the syllabus in detail and you will find it able to satisfy the requirements for first year writing. I can even send you my assignments if you doubt that. I also have a TOEFL score of XXX, so it would not make any sense that I would be placed into an ESL course at DC not fulfilling core requirements. From the catalogue I gave you, the course descriptions state that Eng 111 and Eng 112 are able to satisfy core requirements. On the other hand, I would like to emphasize that I have finished my Associate Degree in DC, which requires a high English standard.

When I am accepted by UM, I received a transcript summary that states the credits of ENG 111 and 112 will be transferable. And I depended on that. I am also waived to take the English placement test during orientation day by the English Institute, probably because of my TOEFL score.

I have emailed my professor to ask for further proof required but they are still in vacation.
I also gave you the phone number of the English Department head of DXXX and the email of my professor. Hope it will be useful.

Once again, thank you. I appreciate everything you have done to help.

天空一角*守護神

This is a song composed by me, dedicated to my aunt and her family~
As I am in USA, I cannot do anything to help my aunt directly. I know, even I am with her, I cannot do much to help.
This, therefore, is my present to them. Hope they will get my message. Hope you can feel my support.
As I am a daugter, I figure what I can do best is to guess what her son feels and through expressing his feelings, strengthen my aunt and cousin.

給天下所有母親

YOUR LOVE FOREVER BE, JUST AS MINE TO YOU
天空一角*守護神

幼小的我常惹你憤怒
還自以為自己沒有犯錯
幸好得你堅持永不放棄
春風化雨多年細心教導
沒有半點抱怨

你多麼溫柔的笑容
給我支持給我鼓勵
小小的我還不能明白
還以為你是大魔頭
打我罵我千萬個不準
還說是為我好

一天一天長大的我
終於明白你對我苦心
犧牲自己青春栽培我
想我開心快樂成長
不是要求我拿冠軍
只是想我盡力

謝謝你的栽培信任
今天的我才可抬頭微笑
發展潛能發現真我
延續你的願望

終有一天你離我而去
我的知己我的朋友
一直有你在旁保護著我
使我遠離世上人情冷暖

我流淚我害怕
怎麼怎麼面對以後日子
你是風你是光
一直伴我身旁
溫暖我的心

不必擔心不必難過
我知道你會一直保護我
天空一角滄海一珠
你總是在某方

你總是在某方

Religion Stiffness

Lyrics by a genius girl:

是我不好是我的錯
是我膽怯是我懦弱
總是不能好好把握
只讓機會擦身而過

那一天你是這麽說
會堅守對我的承諾
我這一生都是為你而活
日思夜想是福是禍
你是天使你是惡魔
努力了解拼命揣摩
熱情冷漠無法捉摸
讓人瘋癲讓人迷惑

失去你日子怎麽過
沒有你我自甘墮落
新的一年願望不多
只想聼你說你愛我

不是要你赴湯蹈火
只想聼你說你愛我

最後原則變成罪過
留我在這兒自食其果

my my..children these days grow so quickly, so mature...
like my cousin back home~bless him for all those pressure..
well, thinking of my name now, does the world treasure "chilliness" and "innocence" anymore?
or we are evolved to a more mature, rational, philosophically decade?

Paul: "because we look not at what can be seen but at what cannot be seen; for what can be seen is temporary, but what cannot be seen is eternal"

Forgive my stupidness, but may I ask what is the difference between religion and life philosophy?
If we are moving to a more mature, rational, philosophically way of life, why people are still so stubborn about sticking to a typical religious believe? Why people are so stubborn in sticking to their own beliefs at all? For beliefs are only assumptions of individuals. Beliefs are right to that person, but wrong to others. All beliefs are assumptions and that more important thing is to induce a change, an improvement. Knowledge contains two parts: acquiring of useful theories and action. Without action, everything means nothing. Without action, there will be no improvement. Now act! Question about your beliefs. See if there can be any changes. See if they are assumptions of yours or facts. Religion should be like philosophical ideas, which can be reformed and modified over time.